Sex and Social Mores


Annemarie Chiarini was a victim of revenge porn. In this case a relationship blew up and her ex-partner threatened to publish private pictures of her on the net in a way that would identify her. He carried out his threat. The police could take no action until her ex did something wrong. Because the internet is reactive, she only got to know after each event; e.g. her ex might post pictures of her plus email and other details onto a porn site, as ‘available’; the first she got to know was when an enquiry was made. She felt powerless. Her reaction was to seek to change the law, which is on the Guardian as Revenge-Porn Victim Maryland Law Change.

When I see stuff like this I get a host of contradictory thoughts:
Former lovers complicit in the end of their relationship, telling their side of the story;
Young / naive male unable to understand females
The scourge of the internet (Doris Lessing said it so it’s right, right?)

These aren’t helped by the Grauniad’s armchair commenters (go see for yourself).

The issue is: it’s natural for women to flaunt their bodies; I see it in my daughters and my wife shushes me when I’m critical. As far as relationships go, boys know this is biology at work and find it irritating / embarrassing. It prompts them to think: ‘do I trust my partner?’
Turn the question around to Annemarie’s point of view: Change your boyfriend or change your life. Everything in her sad tale stems from that. She did the right thing by seeking to change the law. In this day and age it’s easy to be free with private details, unaware of life’s future twists and turns. There needs to be some protections from the kind of mischief she was subjected to.
On the other hand there needs to be honesty about the biological drives of women. Check out Non Paternity Events.
What a can of worms!

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About Terence Park

Collections: vinyl records, comic books, paperbacks; I've plenty of them all. I also do spreadsheets.
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2 Responses to Sex and Social Mores

  1. tparchie says:

    How about Gene Capture?

  2. tparchie says:

    In 2012 I wrote several short stories focusing on female sexuality, non-paternity events and incest (Night of Life, Cuckoo and The India Box). These are included in my short story collection: Ice Made

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